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    August 28, 2020

    COVID-19: It’s time to stop saying, ‘it’s our new normal’

    Published by Kristin Greco on January 7, 2021
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    • conspiracy theories
    • Covid-19
    • pandemic
    • post traumatic
    • psychology
    • ptsd
    • tolerance
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    Written by Kristin Greco, MSW & Edited by Madia Javid-Yazdi, M.Ed.

    We continue to push through this global pandemic; an invisible enemy that is wreaking havoc on our physical and mental health, and intensifying the uncertainty and fear of what could lie ahead. 

    Independent from its apparent physical health impact, economic devastation, and the fatalities COVID-19 has caused, this pandemic has also perpetuated hidden battles. 

    I have heard our current reality referenced as our “new normal,” alluding to acceptance and complacency, which we have reluctantly adjusted to. This acceptance and complacency is not adaptive as it can create destructive vulnerabilities, increasing the likelihood of experiencing invisible battles such as:

    • internal or external anger and/or fear
    • muddled and/or worsened pre-existing or new relationship issues 
    • intensified pre-existing or new mental health symptoms/disorders in adults and children
    • parenting struggles
    • an inability to tolerate another’s spectrum of risk lenience, or lack thereof
    • seeking out, believing, or falling victim to theories rooted in conspiracy or intrigue*

    This abnormal reality has quietly created confusion, cognitive distortions, and overall psychological dysfunction. We are living abnormally, impermanently, and we might have forgotten that we are unconsciously accepting this life circumstance as normal. Most of us, more than ever, are uncertain, fearful, angry, anxious, grief stricken, lonely — and unconsciously vulnerable. The imperative shifts we have had to make in our daily lives to limit risk have become routine, contradicting the kind of healthy social interaction and connection we require as humans. That is not normal.

    Experiences such as observing the whole world masked in public, socially/physically distancing (a new and foreign phrase in our vocabulary), isolating from those we love, and observing social interaction on television which we once took for granted, can cause post traumatic symptoms. Contrary to a common belief, it is not necessary to suffer one isolated tragedy or incident to experience post traumatic symptoms. Post trauma symptoms can begin in the most subtle and gradual ways, unnoticeable for a long period of time. Cumulative uncertainty and intolerance; the very reality we are faced with today can cause post traumatic symptoms.

    These invisible battles have rendered us more vulnerable (whether we like to believe this or not). For self-preservation and to decrease the likelihood of post traumatic symptoms we must practice tolerance as well as resistance toward complacency at this time. Here are some strategies: 

    • Choose who you want to invite into your circle of support
    • Remember that we are all vulnerable right now and may not be acting like our “normal” selves
    • Understand, consider, or explore the psychological motivations behind conspiracy theories*
    • Make decisions that are best for your health and the health and wellbeing of your family. We cannot and will not be able to please everyone, so begin by pleasing yourself
    • Set clear rules and boundaries by using “I statements”
    • Avoid stating your opinion when it has not been welcomed or asked for, and is not a proven fact i.e. is not evidence-based and recognized by empirical scientific data 
    • Take responsibility for what you need within your circle i.e. “I wipe off my groceries to increase my feelings of safety. If this is not your practice, that is ok, but this is what I need right now, even if it is not necessary for you. Can you support me?” 
    • Refrain from engaging in conversation that will test your ability to tolerate others. It is not a time to judge friends and family based on behaviours or beliefs founded in vulnerability

    Consider that this is a time when we all need support of some kind and will require tolerance from others. We will all struggle (some of us more than others) and may find ourselves experiencing some of the few battles mentioned as consequence to our current reality. 

    *From a psychological perspective, it can be enticing and is not uncommon (when vulnerable) to believe and perpetuate conspiracy theories. It is an attempt to regain control, to search for answers or rationale, and/or to hold a certain source responsible for the suffering and chaos that has left us fearful, angry, or anxious. Conspiracy theories are perceptions that are not logical, rational, and are not unique concepts of “thinking outside the box.”

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